Support System, Thank You
Updated: Mar 14, 2019
When family, friends, neighbors ask "What can I do for you?" or "What do you need?"… it was hard to even know what we needed while we were in the hospital L&D, Carter in the NICU and after his passing.
Thank you will never be enough to express our appreciation to our support system near and far. I'm going to try, but I'll never fully be able to tell you how you've held us, and continue to, through our journey. Everyone who has reached out, been there for us in person or from afar by text, phone, mail, and social media - you are all part of our support system.
It started with texts full of love, support and prayers when we were in the hospital and in the NICU. The texts and hand written cards have continued ever since. Texts of prayers, "thinking about you", "I just want you to know I'm praying for you", "Sending you love", "I have no words, I wish I could be there to hug you, cry with you and pray with you", so many more… we felt so much love. Every single text and card has helped us and continues to help us through our journey. For all of you who have sent us love from near and far, through many different avenues of communication, thank you.
Our dear friends at the very beginning packed bags for us, picked up family from the airport, took care of our dogs, came to check on us two days later to be there in person for us, and so much more. Thank you. They also coordinated meals for us from donations received from our friends, to ensure we always had a hot meal delivered or brought over for dinner. Thank you to all of you.
Our parents, family and best friends reach out daily to check on us. They listen when I just need to talk through how I'm feeling, listen when I just need to cry, anything, any time of the day or night. If I do not feel like talking, I don't answer and tell them I just don't feel like talking. They understand every time. They listen to everything and are in the journey with us. They all have or are coming to visit, which means the world. Thank you.
Friends began coming over to see us on days we could handle it and we were able to share our story. It felt good to talk about our story. They just listen and continue to listen. Invite us to places if we are up to it. Always checking in on us. Thank you.
We received so many flowers and more beautiful cards than I can count. Thank you to all of you.
We've received so many things that mean the world to us, completely unexpected, but so special. Hand made bracelets with "Carter" and "CMO", a bracelet and ring with Carter's birth stone and ones with his name, a necklace for Dan, turning my blog site into an actual website, glasses & key chains with Carter's actual foot prints, books on dealing with loss, beautiful keepsakes, wind chimes, a canvas with the song I sang to him over and over, a journal and a tree planted in Carter's honor for us to visit. I'm sure I forgot somethings. Every momento was so thoughtful and meaningful. We cherish them every day and will forever. Thank you.
Our jobs and colleagues were supportive every step of the way. We received so much love and support from our work families. Always checking in on us and praying for us. They collected donations and restaurant gift cards. Thank you to all of you.
Everyone who reads the blogs, listens to our story and being a part of our journey. Thank you.
Everyone who has prayed for us from day 1. Thank you.
Our care team - Physicians, Labor & Delivery team and the NICU team. You may have thought you were "just doing your job", but you all did much more than that for us. Our OB was there for us every step of the way, not only an amazing physician but also an amazing person. She was IN the journey with us, holding our hands every step of the way. Thank you. Our L&D team - the most amazing, genuine, compassionate women. Kristin, Joaney, Sirina, Juanita, Nina, Kayla and others who were apart of the chaos the first day... we will never be able to thank you and the rest of the team. You went above and beyond to make such a horrible situation a little bit easier, I felt like I wasn't just your patient, you were in it with us. Cried with me, dealt with my anger, held my hand, visited us whenever you were there, visited Carter in the NICU... I could go on and on. Thank you. Our NICU team - you cared for our son as if he was your own, you were there to console me when I would come in at 3am, you took amazing care of him. I know he was in the best hands possible with all of you. Thank you. Our pharmacist, Flor, who we know and did not know until after the fact she helped take care of Carter. When I received her text telling me how she did everything with love, prayed, and visited him... I can't explain the feeling that went through me. I smiled and cried at the same time. It's rare to know who is "behind the scenes", and knowing it's someone we personally know, made it even more powerful. I can't explain how thankful and grateful I am for her caring for our son with such love, and that she was able to know Carter. Thank you.
When we were asked "What can we do for you or what do you need", the only answer I could think of was "Your continued love, support and prayers". Feeling so alone, the outpouring love from all over has meant more then anyone knows. We had no idea, we've been just trying to get through day by day. All of these gestures were done out of the kindness of your hearts, we are blessed to have such an amazing support system.
I hear now how difficult it was to know what to do for us, which is why I'll be adding resources to the website of things that help us through the journey.
We will never be able to express how much we appreciate all that has been done and continues to be done for us. We are beyond grateful to have such a large support system. Thank you, thank you, thank you. You help us through this journey more than you'll ever know.